Okay, so you just walked out of the medical physicians office and you are about to get into your car. Through the corner of your eye you see a man about your age pushing a stroller with a four year old walking close holding a balloon. Suddenly you stop in your tracks and take pause of a scenario you have not given much thought to. All of a sudden it hits you and you never gave the thought of when to have children until this very moment. Climbing back into your car for the long drive home you are trying to think of how to approach your wife.
First you will discuss what transpired in the medical physician’s office and then you will try to ease into the discussion of the two of you having a family in the near future. You are very upset with the results of the tests that came back and more upset with the diagnosis that you at this young age have prostate cancer. You already are aware that the recommendation for treatments is on the plate, but you keep thinking that when you survive this prostate cancer you want to begin a family.
Talking with your wife during dinner she is very supportive of you and what you must accomplish. Your wife will stand at your side each step of the way. Perhaps the two of you can have a discussion with the medical physician to find out what the options are. Will this be possible for you since you are only beginning? If surgery is not mandatory in your case you may have other options open to you, but first you must think about staying strong. This is going to be a very long and painful road to travel and you will need all of your strength together with your wife to get through this.
Hormonal therapies are in reserve for men. Surgical treatments can affect you in ways that you have yet to discover. Obviously surgical treatment will cause a delay or perhaps come to a sudden halt. Changes are usually temporary, but this is an issue for the two of you to speak with the medical physician. Keeping in mind that fertility difficulties sometimes occur even with the best approach and attention.
Right now you have enough to concern yourself with. At the moment you might want to talk with your wife before beginning any treatment. Is it possible incase all does not go well the two of you would consider adoption once you survive this battle with prostate cancer? Sadly, your fertility or lack of fertility will depend on the type and duration of the surgical treatment your medical physician prescribes. Statistically, most men over the age of fifty will have other natural complications, but this will also depend upon the drugs the medical physician is prescribing.
Men who have surgery and are on medication during the treatment of prostate cancer obviously will have a very slim chance of having children biologically, but the issue of adoption is always on the back burner. There are a few things you and your wife can consider as a safety incase the medical physician decides you must have further treatment.
Ask your wife about considering harvesting her eggs
Discuss with your wife about in vitro fertilization
Discuss with your wife about visiting a fertility clinic
Add your name in on a reputable donor list
Consider discussing the possibility of adoption
All of the options listed are viable for you and your wife to discuss about and consider, but at a later date. Right now your focus must be on receiving whatever it takes to keep you alive and well. Think about starting a family down the road. This is an issue you will want to keep open and discuss often.